It’s a shame that we don’t have a manual for relationships and the communication required for continued happiness.
Effective Relationship Communication seems easy enough, but we forget how to keep it intact.
Each partner in a relationship has a role and apart. The goal is to have a happy relationship filled with love, joy, and respect. Once those are back in balance, let the fun begin again.
4 Most Important Keys
There are many ‘Keys’ out there for good communication, in all relationships, for today. We are going to focus on Couples:
- Listen. Put down your electronics, and listen. Put the phone on silent (if you can).
- Don’t interrupt the other person. If you have something to say, write a note about it.
- Focus, and settle one problem at a time. Often we try to solve everything all at once, and both parties become overwhelmed.
- Speak clearly. Direct and honest, but without harm.
Sounds easy, doesn’t it? As time goes by, we often forget these keys and need to relearn them.
How do you relearn communication skills?
How do you change how you speak to your partner?
Are you listening?
Are you focusing on too many problems at once?
We take a look at what’s NOT working and look at what did work in the past, adjust it, and rebuild from there. We sort through what is most important. As we work on those, the more minor issues generally dissolve.
What’s missing, for you, the one half of the relationship?
What is missing for your partner?
You will have to be open to HEAR what is missing on your partners’ side of the relationship. And you will have to be able to be direct about what’s missing for you.
How do you communicate? Are you clear? Do you listen?
How to Be a Better Communicator
Communication is the key when it comes to anything that involves collaboration. Since humans are a social species, communication is involved in nearly everything you do. Some people are born with the natural ability to communicate well, while others may struggle with it. No matter what category you fall into, it’s likely that you can benefit from paying attention to improving your communication skills.
Why Better Communication Helps You
Did you know that most businesses consider your communication skills to be the most crucial characteristic about you? This means that you could have top-notch knowledge and job skills but still fail to land a job if you lack communication.
Communication is certainly not only important when it comes to your work life, but it’s also vital in having a successful home life as well. Couples and family members that are good communicators lead happier lives overall. Proper communication will prevent misunderstandings and save you time, so you won’t have to go back and explain yourself again and again. You know you’ve gained good communication skills when communicating your thoughts effectively with as few words as necessary!
How To Improve Communication With Others
Communication is a two-way street. This means that you could have excellent skills, but you may not be understood if the recipient is lacking. This is why it’s essential to develop not only our speaking skills but also our listening skills.
Since you can’t affect the skill level of others, the only thing you can do is strengthen your communication skills. Besides, when you’re an excellent communicator, more people will understand you, everything around you will run more efficiently, and you’ll more often get what you want!
Try these strategies to improve your communication skills:
- Avoid arguing. If you run into a snag in a conversation and it starts to morph into an argument, step back and realize what’s going on. It’s easy to get swept up into the blame game, but ultimately it’s not important who’s at fault. What’s important is the mutual understanding of the issue at hand and a desire for a solution that benefits everyone.
- Don’t be afraid to compromise. You may be tempted to try and “win,” but that’s not the best way to reach a mutual agreement. You may be happier with getting your way, but it may come at the other person’s expense, which can cause further issues. Find a reasonable compromise that you both can willingly accept.
- Work on listening. Your listening skills are even more critical than your speaking skills. After all, how will you know what you should say – and when – if you haven’t effectively listened? Listen more than you speak, and you’ll gain the profound wisdom of others, too!
- Keep your focus. Communication will get overly complicated if you worry about too many issues at once. Avoid bringing up the past or other issues and, instead, focus on the one topic at hand.
- Stay calm and take responsibility. Adopt a calm and cool manner of handling situations. When things remain low-key, it’s easier to communicate and get your point across. This also means that you need to take responsibility for what you say. Don’t be afraid to admit mistakes when you’re wrong.